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"Winter is the time for comfort, for good food and warmth, for the touch of a friendly hand and for a talk beside a fire: it is the time for home."
29 12 / 2011
"To love is not a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of strength. It takes courage to love someone. All of those players out there who can’t commit to another person, to give them their all - THAT is weakness."
27 12 / 2011
13 11 / 2011
Last night, I was discussing friendship & relationships with a friend of mine over a few slices of pizza. I was telling her about my recent bout of frustration with the people in my life and how sad it’s making me. See, I’ve been on this wave of doubting people’s loyalty towards the people they keep close, their loved ones.
Now, don’t get me wrong - I may be frustrated, but I’m still actually just trying to understand their feelings towards what I deem important. There are no specific ways to keep friends, but I do think that there should be some basic unspoken rules, simple human decency that we should all respect when it comes to others. I feel like not enough people out there treat their relationships as carefully as they should. How could you do something that only benefits you when so many people around you always try to help you and cater to your needs? I wish I could be inside these people’s heads to know what they are thinking, and how they sleep at night.
Listen, those who choose to have you in their lives are not disposable commodities - you shouldn’t treat them as such. Being someone’s friend is being there for them in their time of need. It’s making them feel like they matter, not only to you but to the whole world. Their existence is relevant. It’s helping them out when they’re going through a rough patch, and sharing fun moments together, and taking silly photos, and laughing at inside jokes and being their shoulder to cry on when they really need to let it all out. It’s calling them once in a while to see how they’re doing, and sharing with them whatever goes through your mind. All of this, knowing that they will do the exact same in return for you. It’s investing time, energy, trust and love.
Also, it’s taking into consideration their feelings and their needs. Treat them with reciprocated respect, the way that they treat you. You can never have too many friends. Every person is unique and has a different set of characteristics that could really help make or break your day. As soon as someone can make you feel happy, they automatically have something in them that can complete you. Why is it so hard for some to embrace this fact of life?
I love having friends. I love spending time with them, getting to know them, understanding their position on all aspects of life, seeing what makes them happy and what makes them sad. I love hearing them laugh and I love having fun with them. I love creating memories that I can look back on and say, "Wow, they really made my life quite special at that time." It is my biggest wish for every woman and man that I know to understand this.
I know that our generation has its reasons for being the way it is. As a whole, I noticed that we are either extremely selfish or extremely giving. Many dedicate their lives selflessly to help those in need all around the world; to them, I tip my hat. I think it takes a lot of courage and an extremely big heart to accomplish what they have. There are still so many of us, however, who are in the selfish, materialistic "me, myself and I" mindset, and that repulses me. You have no idea how many people I encounter who seem to care less and less about others and solely think about themselves. To them, I say this:
CARE MORE! I urge you to. It’s important.
To all my friends reading this… remember: you matter to me. I chose to keep you in my life for a reason. I care. All I can ask is that you feel the same in return for me. And if you don’t, please make that clear so we can both move on. I have no desire to hang around people who don’t actually want me in their lives. Life’s too short for that, kids.